“Few love to hear the sins they love to act” says Pericle in one the plays of Shakespeare.
If we cannot teach or talk about taboo subjects, such as sex education to our children, what should we teach or talk to them about?
If Imam Fatty cannot teach wives how to keep their husbands happy, understanding men’s urges in spousal relationship, then what can he teach them about?
If a religious scholar cannot dilate on issues which are wrecking relationships, promoting infidelity and compelling some men to become polygamous, what can he or she dilate on regarding spousal relationship?
Imam Fatty wasn’t teaching the women how to be submissive or be sex objects; the religious lecture was within the context of spousal relationship, what make a husband “happy” with his wife.
Fact: some men abandon or neglect spousal relationships in which they feel sexually starved. Am sure when Imam Fatty is talking to men or husbands, he would also address them appropriately.
If every issue worth discussing, especially socio-religious-political issues, must be interpreted and understood only within the cultural prism, with complete deference to our “culture”, then how can we have a critique or critical criticism or public discourse on things that matter to our lives
Culture, according to Houphet Boignay, is a moving river, not a stagnant pool of water. Thus, culture, a cumulative of people’s ways of life, beliefs, activities, art, attitude, purifies and is purified in its interactions, and attrition, with time, societal advancement and other cultures.
No people advances who are still steeped in antediluvian past or who insist on cultural absolutism only. “This is foreign to our culture”; “this is unGambian”; etc…. What is Gambian culture? Is it monolithic?
Imam Fatty wasn’t teaching the women how to be submissive or be sex objects; the religious lecture was within the context of spousal relationship, what make a husband “happy” with his wife.
How will I recognise it when I see it being practiced? Often what am told is Gambian culture are set of values and norms which are also universal.
Often we bring up the “this is foreign to our cultire” argument when we want to suppress or deny rights: we have used the “excuse” to suppress women, dissenting views, desire to hold leaders accountable and transparent, fight injustice in the society, etc….. May be Imam Fatty was also following the similar cultural dictate: you should never speak ill of your leader or undermine him or fail to follow his authority and directives.
Guess our relationship with Imam Fatty has been coloured by what he did and said during the Jammeh regime. It is the classic case of: What you are speaks so loudly in my head that I cannot hear what you say. Wish we can judge people through the same prism or barometer, their past with Yaya.
Matters of love and sex always invoke titanic size emotions in women and men, it’s one of our most basic instinct. Everyone wants sex and most enjoy sex, but sex is ONLY good in the context of marriage. Imam Fatty is bold and courageous. Yes Yes Yes talk more about sex. Women have the right and joy to please their husband and that by the way is reciprocal. Nothing wrong with your video, actually everything is right about it.
DR, please, there is something mmuch more exciting than sex going on at this very moment: Superman Le Bron James is ANNAHILATING the Raptors in Toronto!
“Ann i hilating” Dr – the sex-beating excitement is getting to my head! By the way, the Marina School SISSIES never lost a Basketball game while I was their coach back in 1997 – they even beat St Augustines and Gambia High School.
I in particular, condemned Fatty’s message because of his mixed messages, which is typical of a hypocrite. How can one reconcile the promotion (or even enforcement) of female circumcision purposely to reduce the sexual pleasure of the woman, despite the health risk, and then turn around and make those vulgar statements in front of girls. If I were the parents of those girls, I will strictly stop them from coming into contact with this man calling himself imam, amang koi.
“Imam Fatty cannot teach wives how to keep their husbands happy, understanding men’s urges in spousal relationship, then what can he teach them about?” What about teaching men how to keep women Happy? A healthy and loving relationship is not just about “sex””. Maybe if he didn’t defend Genital mutilation and actually came out strongly against it, then more children would not be forced to go under the knife…and future generations of women would actually being able to enjoy a sexual relationship, without the pain (physically and mentally)that FGM can cause. Sex education in schools has nothing to do with “how to keep a man happy and stop him from straying”….sex education in schools is concerned with the biology of reproduction, what happens at puberty, how children can keep themselves safe, respecting peoples boundaries, STDs, contraceptives etc.(all age appropriate)…it is not concerned with “licking your partner”.
When and where was the audio recorded?
There is a lesson embedded in Imam Fatty message that was lost in the outcry. Hadith for marriage relationship between men and women is perhaps one of the most important and significant relationship requiring instructions of love, patience and obedience. Most will spend time, publicly practicing sunnah, which by the way is rewarded and commendable, but privately, inside their homes, they are wicked and beat their children and wives. ( Go figure ).
If you choose to be outraged about the audio, at least understand Hadith Concerning Eleven Women, for there lies the message. For me, his message was never about women, but about how men should be good husbands and fathers.
Personally I would love to hear the views of Gambian women, whenever there is a post on various Gambian Forums concerning Women’s issues, it’s always the men who have the most to say. But men know best..right?
Don’t mind them. The Bullies think they are experts in all things concerning women. They take all the space discussing issues they know nothing about, most women let them delude themselves, but we know who is really in control. Don’t we Judy.
LoL Dr. Sarr: All the HADITHS were written by men too! Sorry, Judy, there is something going on between Isatou & Moi (wink).
A good and authentique preacher is always clear, concise and to the point. No vulger, No ocoded messages, No hatered and No dehumanisation.
Those who object Imam in this issue are just subjective, Islam is a complete way of life which every aspects of human interactions including intimacy. Spreading this audio translates gross hypocrisy with the aim aim of tarnishing his image; because this was done long time ago.